04/02/2020 Shaking the Magic 8 Ball – By Pastor Katie

Well, the novelty has worn off. Reality is setting in, this ‘new normal’ could last a while…Another way to say this, is that the ‘honeymoon’ phase of everyone being home and being together is starting to wear off.
In our virtual Mom’s Connect conversation this morning, one of the women said that it feels like every day we are “shaking the [magic] 8 ball” to find out what the day will be like.
          Is there such a thing as “too much togetherness”?
The answer to that question probably depends on if you identify as an introvert or an extrovert. For my introverted husband and my father (we live with my family, three generations in one home, it is beautiful!) the answer is “definitely!” As an extrovert myself, and with an extroverted toddler, our answers would be something closer to “I like some alone time, but I’d rather be together.”
Sometimes togetherness can feel like a lot, especially as we are all managing this time so differently. The deep feelers and the deep thinkers are approaching this situation of ‘stay at home’ and the rising number of COVID-19 cases very differently.
As school has resumed in new online formats, children and parents are navigating how to manage their time, how to use this new freedom of time, how to navigate encouraging independence and ensuring productivity. Different learning styles are becoming apparent. For parents, children, spouses, families, different time management priorities might feel glaring.
          Sometimes, difference leads to discord.
While I don’t have a virtual Magic 8 ball to help you determine what the day, the week, or the month will bring, I do want to share some resources you might find helpful.
If you’re feeling the loss of normal. If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of plans made, the loss of special trips, the loss of celebrations, any kind of loss in this time. Check out Brené Brown’s podcast “Unlocking Us” in which she converses with grief expert David Kessler, called “Grief and Finding Meaning.”
If you’re feeling like it is “too much togetherness” and your relationship is entering crisis state, former Faith Lutheran pastor, Rev. Christine Ruth, who is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wrote an article called “Marriage CPR during the Covid Crisis.”
               Check out the article here: https://bit.ly/3dOmHCu
If you’re looking for spiritual reflections and centering, I really appreciate Father Richard Rohr and his daily devotions. I’ve been finding time to pause, pray and reflect, because I need it more now than ever. The devotion for today (April 2nd ) is called “You Are Not in Control,” as someone who likes to be organized and maintain a semblance of control this hit home.
            You can find the devotion here: https://cac.org/lesson-four-you-are-not-in-control-2020-04-02/
Be gentle with one another and with yourselves, this will be a marathon, not a sprint.
To steal a question from Jen Hatmaker, who stole it from Barbara Brown Taylor…what is saving your life right now?
            I want to add another question, what is bringing you life?
Have other resources—share them in the comments!
What are you reading? Who are you listening to? What is helping you this week?
Pastor Katie

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